Friday, May 10, 2013

Mom's House

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Marilyn Horan
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                                                                                                                        July 7, 1998

Sitting in my mother’s house, having put down the Combat—large and small.  So many emotions:
            --Love the smell of the upstairs as I walk up to the second floor—warm, slightly flowery, sunny, smelling of summer.
            --Toy room—small drawing on wall I did during one of my long teenage talks—a box of oatmeal and a glass—the remembered feeling that I could draw—never borne out by reality.
            --As I write this at the small dining room table it is covered with a crocheted tablecloth—uncomfortable to write on, but a small sign of gentility, of freshness, of cleanliness that keeps what I consider a roach infested, rattrap from being a total dirt-floor hovel.
            --All the tubes of ointments, salves without tops—a family trait of carelessness, of false rushing to get to where?  But wherever it was, was always too late.
            --Cannot see too well—eyes filled with tears.  So much has gone on here.
            --Baby roaches crawling on the counter.  Remember when we covered the cabinets with contact paper—Arlene’s idea—and the tiny roaches crawled out from the screw holes when we unscrewed them.
            --Medicine cabinet—got to be 50 years old—corroded—small plastic jar of Boric Acid, small Old Spice shaving can, eye wash cups.  I’m surprised there is no Avon Perfumed Deodorant that my mother condescended to buy but without an atomizer, so that I poured the deodorant onto my armpits and it sometimes ran down between the lips of my vulva burning like a bastard.
Everywhere I look is a memory:
            --The Corning ware coffeepot that I think I gave to my mother.
            --Towels I gave her after my first marriage dissolved; old gold carpet that I ripped up from my old apartment, now covering her bedroom floor; dish towels, now more grease than cotton.
            --Signs of sickness everywhere.  Anyone who kids herself that life is sweet is mistaken.  Piss pots on a stand, walkers, Mineral Ice, colostomy gags, a prosthetic breast, Aunt Helen’s arm pump used to reduce the swelling in her huge arm from lymphedema, the result of a radical mastectomy.
            --The lumpy and repulsive stuccoed ceiling in the living room with the shiny, asbestos covered waste pipe going through the room.  My brother Bob at 6’4” having to duck and doing so automatically as he went up or down the steps.
            --Uncle Alfie—his big truck parked outside—sitting with us on what was it?  Monday nights?  Watching “What’s My Line” and “Truth or Consequences.”  My mother pushing dinner on him and his responding, “No, I already ate, I tell ya.”  I never realized how much he meant to my mother until he died.  Uncle Alfie bought me a transistor radio when I was 11 and it was the most wonderful thing I owned.  He bought my mother Melmacware—pink roses on a white background—her favorite combination.
            --In her bedroom I prayed to my mother to give me a sign because I felt so bad that she had been so unhappy.  I don’t know if she gave me a sign, but the pleasant smell when I was expecting stink was a beautiful experience.  If it’s you, thanks, Ma.
            --Aunt Helen’s summer strap chair that she used all the time outside in the aerie.  There are pictures of her on the kitchen table from 1968 sitting on that chair on Verona Street in Red Hook, the Point, the Hook.  I wonder if in 1968 she knew she would live another 30 years.
            --The television set—“Jeopardy” and “The Ed Sullivan Show” the nightly news, of course, and a show that links me with my father:  “All in the Family.”  He enjoyed it and I did too. 
            --The sixties:  free love and abortion and Vietnam; leather hats, hip huggers, and exposed navels; hot pants and pantyhose!
            --Grandpa planted a plum, or was it an apple tree, in the backyard.  Mother was so proud and protective of it.  Maybe there was a time she wanted to please her father, and did not passionately hate him.
            --Daddy’s furnace room.  Tools, at least to my mind, of every sort.  I loved to see him working on a project.  His throwing tools when angry and cursing violently to my amusement.  We all have volatile tempers in my family.  His sign in the furnace room:   “You can’t iron with a broken plug.  Pick cord off floor!” symbolized his “difference” from us—slobs who “slopped up” the kitchen after he cleaned it.  He wanted order, tried to create it but was up against an emotional and physical slob—my mom.  Sorry, Ma, but that’s how it was.
            --Mom’s underwear drawer.  What a collection of stretched out, useless stuff.  Yet even she had a better self-image than Aunt Helen who stuffed tissues into her bra and had wrinkled little bumps, uneven, of course, on her horribly sunken chest.
            --The two rose vases.  Always there, never filled with flowers, but who needed them when the vases themselves were so beautiful?
            -- Where are the pictures of the beautiful dark-haired woman playing the piano to an admiring audience of one man?  I always thought they were paintings of my mother and charming father before they had kids.

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